Posted by Honore on September 8, 2007, at 23:41:29
In reply to Re: the 50-minute hour... » annierose, posted by RealMe on September 8, 2007, at 23:19:33
My appointments are 45 minutes, which is standard. My T is exact about time, but tells me when there are about 15 and about 5 minutes left, and then sort of ends things slowly, and walks me to the door, where we usually talk for a second. He would freak if the appointments didn't end at exactly the right time. I can't imagine what he would do if I wouldn't go-- I mean now he would just get mad-- but earlier, if I really didn't want to go.
But he always makes the point that the person waiting has the right to their whole time-- which isn't related to what he feels, but to being fair. I kind of like that, because I'd have felt guilty if it weren't fair-- and worried about what he did with others--even when it was much harder. It's much better that he does it since I couldn't-- nor would I feel in control, even if I stayed a few minutes more, so at least I don't have to try to force myself to do something that's too hard. Probably it would be better if I could, but I can't.
It's so interesting how we feel about the end, though.
Honore
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