Posted by gardenergirl on September 14, 2007, at 10:28:19
In reply to Re: Third time's the charm: termination, posted by pegasus on September 14, 2007, at 9:42:23
Hi pegasus,
Good to see you here. And if I'm remembering correctly, how's the little one?Boy it really has been a long strange trip to termination. My T said that I was an "outlier" with regard to the changing policy for seeing the pdoc. I'm sure I'm also an outlier for how I got to actually terminating. Guess I just like to practice first. :)
I'd be glad to talk about it more, though probably not til I get back from vacation. One thing, though--he said that one of the cardinal signs that someone was ready for termination was when they felt they had other things to do besides going to therapy. Or when they felt they had better things to spend their money on. When the therapy appt becomes more of an obligation or burden, it's time to end, usually. This is based on his experience, not any theory, but it's what I noticed, too. Of course I felt guilty for feeling like I had better things to do. I worried that would seem insulting to him, though he's trained not to take that stance, and he views it as a treatment success. Silly leftover neuroses. :)
I forget, you've already terminated, right? I'd be interested in hearing about how your thoughts and feelings have evolved since you ended. Right now I feel not quite but almost indifferent. I'm sure that will not last as I get closer. But I wonder what comes next, so to speak.
I care about you, too, and I'm glad you're posting more again.
Thanks for your input.
gg
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