Posted by Fallsfall on March 4, 2008, at 8:16:36
In reply to MAD MAD MAD!, posted by Daisym on March 3, 2008, at 1:01:28
I said, "Think about that for a minute. Would you want to know any more? At this point - what would you do with it?" She said, "I guess I've chosen to believe it isn't true - she isn't reliable - and what would I do now - report him to the police? No. So it is best left alone." End of discussion.
I agree with Pegasus. You gave her permission to discount it. And it is possible that she doesn't know that it would be healing for you for her to be outraged - or even just to know. I think that this exchange was a turning point. She brought up your sister - clearly she hasn't forgotten about the accusations. But she doesn't know what to do about it - as a goal oriented person that is a scary way to feel. I think that if she knew that there was something she could do that would help, then she might very well do it.
How healing would it be for you for her to just say "Oh, my God. I didn't know. I'm so sorry I didn't know."
I think it is very positive that the subject surfaced again with her. I think this is progress.
In the meantime, yell and scream at your therapist. He'll understand and it will help you!
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