Posted by brassneck on June 15, 2008, at 20:51:01
In reply to Re: Crying in therapy » seldomseen, posted by 10derHeart on June 14, 2008, at 18:00:40
> But, I've never been one to mind crying in front of most other people (except at work) too much, anyway, except for the problem of how physically ugly I think I look while doing it
Yeah, I worry about that, too. I really hate that I care, though! Especially because I never think that other people look ugly when they cry in front of me. I tend to find it attractive, even. In a way.
> He used to say, just like when I'd get angry, raise my voice, and curse - then apologize, "I don't mind when you (swear)(cry) at all. It's part of what I'm here for. It just communicates how intensely you're feeling something and how important it is to you. Why wouldn't I want to know that?" ((ex-T.)))
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> I'll bet it'll go fine if you do cry, and probably be a big relief. Can you talk to your T. about your fears of crying or show him your post, maybe before it happens, when you're feeling more dispassionate? That might help, if it's something you think you could do.Your ex-therapist sounds really nice. I think mine will be good, too, but it's still scary to think about. I've mentioned to him before that I don't like to cry in front of people, so he knows that it'll be hard for me whenever it ends up happening with him. We'll see what transpires tomorrow.
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