Posted by Lemonaide on August 2, 2008, at 22:11:18
In reply to Is therapy a 'double-edged sword'?, posted by stellabystarlight on August 2, 2008, at 17:52:30
I think it has the potential to be. I am one of those who had a terrible termination or I actually fired him after 2 1/2 years. I think it is very important to have a T who is well, who can take care of their ego, who knows their own faults and works on them, and is open to new ideas or methods of therapy.
My T has been practicing over 40 years, he has been though several different methods that were "the way of the time", but he is always willing to improve on the knowledge he knows. He draws upon all of the methods he knows of, and in turn he is a very effective T.
I think it also matter just how experienced your T is, and the severity of problems you need help with. I know some may disagree, but I think in cases like mine, a beginning T would not be as helpful as someone experience at being a T.
I don't know how hard termination will be with my T, but I do know that since I have a T who seems to take care of his own issues, I spend less time on trying to take care of him, or judge what and how he does things. Now I think of me, and what I need to do. My T is just my helper, I am the main subject therapy, not my T. With my current T of one year now (yippee, hit the one year mark this week), I have done a lot more work and progress, because I spent a lot less time thinking about my T.
I think in ways, when we focus on our T's and what and how they do things, it is a way to change the focus off ourselves, almost like a defensive mechanism.
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