Posted by indigogal on August 9, 2008, at 9:12:02
In reply to Thank you all, posted by llurpsienoodle on August 9, 2008, at 0:19:41
Hi Llurpsie... I have only posted on here a few times before, but read the site with interest regularly. I am also a T in therapy and can relate to a lot of the stuff you wrote (and my T is also a T in therapy-- one of the few self-disclosures she's made). I initially had a VERY difficult time being "on the other side of the couch" and allowing myself to be vulnerable... I still sometimes do. I know she says things once in awhile that she wouldn't say to a non-T client, and once in a while I ask her a mentor-like question (she's been practicing a few years longer than me)... But in general our relationship is quite defined as therapist and client. She's never talked to me about other clients though, I think that would make me uncomfortable. I think I'd feel kind of hurt personally if she described our relationship as a supervisor/supervisee relationship... and that would also make me feel like she saw me more as a colleague than a client. Which in a way I would like, but in another way I know would be problematic for me (b/c for so long- and even sometimes now- that's how I want her to see me! but i know it's not helpful therapeutically). Sooo... my strong suggestion for you would be to put it all out there. Which it sounds like you already have, by leaving your T that voicemail. So brave! Let your T know what you need and what isn't working for you, and see if anything changes... I really hope he's able to hear where you're coming from and make the necessary changes so he can better help you. Hugs, Llurpsie!
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