Posted by antigua3 on August 9, 2008, at 11:58:39
In reply to Therapist on Leave, posted by TherapyGirl on August 7, 2008, at 21:40:44
I understand how you feel. One night many years ago, a friend of my therapist's called to say that my T was suspending therapy for the "forseeable future" and she would be in touch about future therapy. She didn't tell me why or anything, and I was devastated. I think I had only been seeing her a couple of years at this point.
I ruminated and worried, and two days later my husband read my T's husband's obituary in the paper. I was so shocked.
I ran into my T about a month later at a school event and once she saw me, she grabbed me and pulled me into another room and explained how sorry she was that she hadn't been in touch. That helped a lot and I had a chance to express my sincerest condolences.
We resumed therapy about eight weeks after this happened, maybe sooner but I don't think so. It was a big rupture to our relationship, but mostly I was glad to find out that SHE was o.k. I was sorry about her husband, of course, but selfishly I was glad it wasn't her. She freely discussed what happened and in retrospect she was right to take the time. If she had come back too early, she wouldn't have been herself and that would have caused additional problems.
I don't remember it taking long to rupture the break. Maybe it did, and I've suppressed it.
But it was a huge scare, I'll tell you that.
So trust that your T is doing the right thing for her patients. And I pray that things will work out.
all my best,
antigua
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