Posted by JayMac on September 9, 2008, at 16:11:21
In reply to How do you 'depend' on your T? ????, posted by Looney Tunes on September 8, 2008, at 21:12:05
> Do you think it is an important part of therapy to be able to depend on your T?
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> And what does that mean to you?
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> I am really battling this issue...Looney,
I think it's ok to depend on your T. It's ok to need your T. It's ok to want to be close to your T. These are all natural and *good* things to want. It helps create a theraputic alliance.
I have also struggled with the dependency aspect with my T. I told her recently that I hate that I depend on her so much. For me though, it has helped me to trust her and the whole *process* of therapy. Gradually, over many months and/or years, you will become less and less dependent on her and more towards inter-dependence.We, as human beings, all need other people. The extent to which we depend on others does vary from person to person. Regardless, we NEED human connection. It's not good to depend too much OR too little. It can creat boundary issues. Those are some of my thoughts based off of experience and my own research.
I hope that makes sense. I, also, have issues with dependency and connection. Feel free to babble mail me if you'd like =)Take good care,
Jay
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