Posted by rskontos on September 17, 2008, at 17:43:52
In reply to unprecedented therapy feelings *long*, posted by raisinb on September 17, 2008, at 11:59:57
raisinb,
Let me ask a question first so that i might better understand. When she brings up the pregnancy, exactly how does she do that?
You could do what I did the last time, I felt sessions were just flat, going no where. I went in and said "exactly what should I be talking to you about so that I am well. Or at least better. Because I am never going to like people. I like being alone and I don't see how coming in here and chatting about stuff is helpful."
Well, this opened up a whole different type of dialogue.
Do you just ever approach her directly? In that you could just say why the hell are we always talking about your pregnancy. It wasn't my idea and now I am feeling so disconnected from you why don't we stop seeing each now. You go be pregnant. Now that might sound mean but it would surely open up dialogue.
I understand if you can't confront her directly. I waited awhile to say anything and spent many a days after sessions being quite frustrated with T and myself for talking trivial crap. I even told him I was tired of talking to him.
It could be that you are ready to terminate but then it could be a protection device on your part. Now it might be that she is justing trying to help you deal and is being more obtuse than direct. She may not realize you don't like how she is handling it unless you speak up about your confusion.
Maybe you could just tell her she is reminding you of your mother and ughh that just isn't cool.
And really she may not be herself. And doesn't realize it either. THose pregnancy hormones sure do change a person.
I guess what i am really trying to say in my rambling way, is you gotta talk it out.
I am sorry you are confused. It is a current state of mind for me right now so you do have company if that is any comfort.
rsk
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