Posted by rskontos on September 19, 2008, at 16:59:56
In reply to T thinks I might be shallow, posted by Quintal on September 19, 2008, at 15:32:44
Qunital,
I feel numb most of the time, it is part of my dissociative disorder, I told my t, who is also my p-doc, that I don't think I will ever like people and if the goal of therapy is to get me to like them then we are wasting our time. I don't think people are likeable. I told him I watched Rambo IV and connected with the character in that he had power, did not like people and could care less plus he could kick butt when he needed to. He did not tell me I was shallow he said I can see why you relate to this character. And this all lead to a great discussion of me, and my therapy with him. Not always very comfortable but a good and necessary evil I suppose. What I am getting at, I think your T should not say you are shallow. That is mean to me. Given what might have happened to you in your life you might have a reason not to like people. I sure do. And some people are loners. My husband is. He comes across like you described but he likes people enough just prefers his own company.
And what if it is defense. What is wrong with that. I just wonder how much experience does your T has. A person can only allow themselves to feel shallow superficial emotions because they don't want to be hurt. I get that. I think her labels of you are counterproductive. She should let you talk about why you feel like you do and work on ways to try and get over that.
For some reason I am not liking your T for you. She seems to not have your best interest at heart. I hope I am wrong.
Do you think she just might not get you? Be a bad fit?
Take care my friend
rsk
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