Posted by susan47 on September 27, 2008, at 20:13:39
In reply to Re: Thank you all so much! Everything..... » susan47, posted by fleeting flutterby on September 19, 2008, at 13:50:44
> ----I think what susan had to say here makes a lot of sense. I had an email friend and she was married and yet had an affair with her therapist-- she thought he LOVED her and she knew she loved him... and she went on and on to me how he is so attracted to her and yadda, yadda, yadda...... then he got caught-- and she soon found out how many other "special" clients he was seeing. It really messed her up bad. He lost his license in that state and blamed it on the clients and would never speak to my email friend again-- she was shattered-- to say the least.
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> Sassy-- please do self-care first. It would be so awful for you to be hurt. There's a saying-- "If he's doing it WITH you, he's probably doing it TO you"...... he may have 4, 5 or 6 other "Sassys" in his life to feed his ego..... please take kind and special care of YOU-- the most important person in this situation. *hearts* and more *hearts to you.
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> flutterby- mandy
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Good story, and rings true. I think about his character before anything developed in me, anything serious, that is, and even then, even long afterwards I always detected the flaw in his character, and it drove me crazy, absolutely nuts, that I could not trust this person I FELL IN LOVE WITH which is so hugely transferent, (word, sp?) and on top of that I was borderline, oh yes, oh darling YES it's all true and f*ck*ng, so f*ck*ng hugely sad, and he would never give me or the situation a second glance, because That is the Type of Man I believe he really is, it is all he's shown himself to be, and I am still standing in an Arctic breeze, chilled and cold to the bone.
I just wish for Life, again.
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