Posted by Nadezda on October 10, 2008, at 18:12:26
In reply to I had to start a new thread., posted by Dinah on October 10, 2008, at 17:27:00
It is so interesting that you actually asked. It makes both your T and your wishes much more affirmative-seeming.. You say that he made the wishes safer-- but really it was a collaboration between both of you. Maybe you accept your needs and wishes as less frightening or potentially destructive-- and know intuitively how to make the distinctions that you need at this moment between the ones that can and should be acted upon, and the ones that are better left phantasies. And therefore, can keep them vital possiblities?
It's funny how things that you do without even being aware that anything's different, can suddenly reveal a slight (or a great) change in perspective.
It must change things, too, that your T trusted you to -- and that he was able to say yes. I find that so remarkable-- that he did say yes, and would have let you go, if you had chosen to-- even though he sensed that you wouldn't.
I do wonder what he would do, though?? How tempted were you to go? do you think you might someday?
As many others have said, you have such a remarkable relationship with your T.. You're so lucky to found someone with whom you could create something so positive, which you've kept growing and shaping together over time. It's rare to find that sort of rapport and reciprocity--as well as to make as much of it as you have..
Nadezda
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