Posted by Little Soul on January 19, 2009, at 19:25:07
In reply to Do you tell your t how you feel about him or her?, posted by movingforward on January 19, 2009, at 18:57:31
Hi movingforward - I like your name - shows hope!
I can relate to your question. It sounds like you'd like to explore your feelings with your T because it is something you've been thinking over for a while.
I remember the first time I mentioned this to my T. First, I kinda beat round the bush, saying things like, "I'm having these strange feelings and don't know how to describe them to you." I next said something like, My feelings feel kinda primal (like a real small infant before language was available). Then I finally moved in to saying I love you. She was soooo understanding. She's a Jungian T and said that Jung says that there is you and there is the T and somewhere in the middle the two come together and that's where the relationship sits. Just re-read that sentence - don't know if that makes sense. Anyway, my T said that it is necessary to have that relationship because it is a normal part of therapy. I trusted her and didn't feel a bit ashmed after our discussion.
I'd been seeing my T for about nine months before I could even identify what was going on for me. And a few months after that to admit it to her. For me, it was quite releasing. It brought me to another level in my therapy. I was dealing with some childhood stuff and my feelings for my T made perfect sense in that context.
I know that everyone's experience with therapy is different and that just because I said it, it may not mean its right for everyone. I just went with my gut and took a chance. I hope that you listen to what feels right for you. It sounds like you have an amazing T and you are very fortunate. Good luck and let us know how it works out, if you feel comfortable.
LS
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