Posted by Dinah on January 24, 2009, at 18:30:30
In reply to Favourite words/phrases from therapists?, posted by wittgensteinz on January 24, 2009, at 17:56:56
I think it's a great idea!
My favorite two are easy.
"Everything is going to be ok." I call him up sometimes to hear him say that. And if he doesn't say it "right" I stamp my foot and ask him to say it again. He's promised to try to teach me how to say it.
"Call if you need to." I don't remember for sure if this started when he was out of town a lot, or what. But I would ask him at the end of each session if I could call him if I needed to. Now it's part of the ending ritual and rituals are very important to me. He usually says it himself. If he doesn't, I ask. If we both forget, I turn back and stand in his doorway with a grin, and he grins back and says it. Once recently I forgot even that and called to ask him. So if it hasn't been erased it's currently on my answerign machine. He varies it too. If he's going to be out of town or otherwise occupied, he'll add that it might take him a while to return my call (insert appropriate expectations) but he wants me to call him if I need to.
Hmmm... the others may come to me.
"I know" said in a warm and amused tone hits both lists. If I'm trying to get him to take something seriously, it seems like an acceptance of the status quo. But other times it seems like an acceptance of me.
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