Posted by rskontos on January 28, 2009, at 14:22:25
In reply to Re: Gifts » backseatdriver, posted by sassyfrancesca on January 28, 2009, at 13:15:59
Hmmm,
I have never given my t a gift nor thought about it. What does this say about me? Cold perhaps or distant. I am not sure.
Perhaps I will ask him to see his perspective on it.
He would probably fall over if I did try to give him something. He tends to know me better than I know myself. So gift giving is very personal to me and I am not at a place where I feel personal toward him. At least I don't want to feel that way.
does this make sense. I guess I feel like it would make it official a relationship with him to give him something. It would be a big deal to him(or so I think and maybe a bigger deal to me who the heck knows) and I can't admit that yet.
I guess I am more messed up than I thought because this thread made me think about it. I never realized so many gave their t's gifts. I feel like a heel sort of. But then I am not a very good social person either so I guess I am true to myself. I have trouble with being whatever you call a good giftgiver.
And then there would be the whole issue of what to give. Nope I can't even think about that.
but thanks for the thought provoking thread. maybe me think
rsk
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