Posted by raisinb on February 1, 2009, at 14:03:35
In reply to Questions about your T, posted by Looney Tunes on January 31, 2009, at 13:22:15
Interesting thread!
> 1) How long have you been with CURRENT T? Did you have a previous T?I have been with my current one for 4 years. Previously I bounced around, saw 8 or 10 different ones. Longest was about four months.
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> 2) Is your T male or female?Female
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> 3) What is the orientation of your T? Did you know when you started with T?Psychodynamic. I didn't know in a real way what that meant when I started. It was a shock when she started focusing on our relationship in the room.
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> 4) Are you older, younger, or same age as T?She's about 2 years older than me.
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> 5) What type of transference have you experienced? Do you think it is limited by your T's age or gender?Whew. I've experienced strong maternal transference, very intense sexual transference, and some stuff with my dad mixed in there, too. Definitely age and gender influenced all of these. I doubt I'd have mother stuff with a male, or the intense feelings and trust issues and worries about being not good enough or judged. Also, if my therapist were a lot older, I doubt I'd have been attracted to her.
Most of the intense painfulness has lessened in the past year. The attachment is a bit more secure. But a lot of these feelings have come up again in response to her absence.
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> 6) Do you look at your T? How frequently? (I mean literally at their face when talking)I do sometimes at the beginning, or when we are talking about something unimportant (weather, etc). When we're in the intense part I literally cannot stop staring at the floor.
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> 7) What is your greatest fear of your T?I have two. The biggest is that something will happen to her and she will be gone. The second is that she will change and not care about me anymore.
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> 8) Do you just let yourself "be" in T? Or are you composed and careful?Occasionally I just "be." Often though I am very controlled, to the point of tensing all my muscles and being physically exhausted afterwards. My therapist constantly tries to get me to be less controlled and to "fall apart," even to the point of suggesting hugs for that purpose. But I'm not sure I'm ready for it.
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> Now, I know since someone is going to ask about me:
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> 1) I have been with current T about 5-6 months
> I had a previous T for 3.5 years. And a couple of T's when I was a kid (foster care).
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> 2) T is male. Which I can't believe I can even sit in the same room, but he is very non-scary.
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> 3) I don't know. T is "psychodyamically" trained, but does object relations, EMDR, etc. Kind of eclectic. I had no idea what T did, I was referred.
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> 4) I am late 20s; T is 40ish. I wish T was older.
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> 5) Parental transference; although I am SOOO embarassed because T is not old enough to be my parent; sibling tranference; transference about abandonment and rejection; again completely embarrassed.
> I think transference would be more intense if T was older, because I try and keep it hidden because he is not old enough to be my parent.
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> 6) I NEVER look at T (that I know of). He keeps saying "look at me LT" but I can't.
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> 7)I think T is going is disappear (he doesn't know though)
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