Posted by obsidian on May 8, 2009, at 19:07:09
In reply to Mother's Day, posted by yellowbird01 on May 8, 2009, at 18:12:13
hi yellowbird,
I don't know. My mother I send something to, as she does care for me. It's just that prolonged interactions with her become harmful to me. The looking at mother's day cards is painful though. A lot of them are about closeness and stuff that don't describe my relationship with her. I find something that expresses some affection without pretending that I have a close relationship with her.
However, I don't have a problem not sending anything to my father as he has had no problem apparently forgetting that I exist.
I remember a friend of mine saying something about how I "should" contact him. I thought she was light years away from the mark, but this evoked a confusing type of guilt. I feel no obligation, as he feels no obligation toward me. I feel no need to be "better" than him, and I don't want to waste energy pretending.Only you can know yellowbird. Do you want the relationship with your mother to be more? Do you think it could be?
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