Posted by FindingMyDesire on June 15, 2009, at 22:44:26
In reply to introduction and feedback needed, posted by psychmom on June 15, 2009, at 21:03:28
Hi psychmom,
Sorry this is so hard. You have been seeing him for 3 years, right? Has the issue of his availability come up before? If so, I wonder how it was handled then. Were you able to really talk to him about it?I'm curious, too, about the feeling you have that he is so sensitive and that you are worried about lashing out at him. Of course our Ts are regular people with feelings, but your process is about you and your feelings, not so much his. When you say he was upset with you, what was this like? Are you able to tell him you think he got upset with you?
I will say I just hate it when my T is unavailable. It has got to be the most triggering thing. And it happens. And it sucks. And I *think* it can be meaningful if worked through somehow, although I certainly don't have the answers and know that It Is Hard.
I'm curious about your gender question. What do you mean?
I'm so sorry to hear about past trauma and that it is activated right now. I respect your need for having enough resources at the ready to process these feelings!
Thinking of you. I hope that you will post here if it helps.
FMD
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