Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 18, 2009, at 12:20:06
Saying that I am confused as to why someone is posting is not the same as saying they should leave. I cannot help if a person leaps to that conclusion, but I want to apologize to you for the hurt I heard expressed in your post as I result of what I said. Please note that I said in another post that the reason I was not sure why she was posting was b/c this is a peer board, and it sounded like (from the posts that I have read) that she was acting as a therapist in her posts to Deneb and acting as an expert in her post w/me (with the tone of voice that implies). I think that IS confusing to some people who expect a peer interaction, not therapy. I think that on a board where people have experienced a lot of loose/squishy boundaries in their lives, they should be able to expect that a peer support board will be about peer support.
I also think that sometimes people get a kick out of showing how smart they are.
So my confusion is this: on a peer support board, why talk about one's credentials as a therapist, and then proceed to tell Deneb that she is displaying the behaviors (threatening suicide) of someone with a personality disorder (BPD), and then track down all her posts and link to them when the person resists that interpretation (as is reasonable to do--that's why therapy doesn't happen in a single session, or a single post, and why therapists should not challenge their clients without also giving them support and encouragement).
Should I have posted this to admin? I don't know. It didn't seem that big of a deal at the time. Just a line written in a post...and then in another post, my explanation, and a very clear and distinct clarification, in which I said, no, I wasn't saying I thought you should leave.
poster:Amelia_in_StPaul
thread:901788
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20090614/msgs/901788.html