Posted by garnet71 on July 1, 2009, at 20:11:46
In reply to analyst seems to not be working, posted by deerock on July 1, 2009, at 15:52:02
Can you take a vacation from her and try someone else, perhaps a male?
I"m only new to analysis, but I had the opposite reaction as you-too intense, as opposed to too passive as in your case. There has to be a middle ground?
I think matching and skill/experience (with people w/similair issues as you) makes a difference. Maybe she's not a good match for you?
If you think you're underlying cravings are from repressed childhood emotions, analysis might be best. It seems you are feeling they are from self esteem issues--but what are the circumstances and emotions behind the low self-esteem--did she help you find and search through those emotions yet, reveal the core of your feelings of inadequacies/self-defeating behavior/wish to self harm?
The thing with analysts, though, is that you *never* know whether they are being straight up or saying things to provoke a reaction. Maybe she is saying she wants you to continue with her, to assess your inner argument patterns; to get at your underlying drives...
For example - maybe in terms of 'success' and 'failure' in giving in to your cravings, parellel to the success and failure of the therapy itself?
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