Posted by Daisym on July 2, 2009, at 22:28:35
In reply to Re: About my assignment, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2009, at 0:58:16
I agree about that being a burden. Linus (Charlie Brown) said, "Great potential is a heavy burden."
When your write about your parents, on the surface these seem to be wise parent education concepts and a good way to raise children. But I think when you look deeper, like with my mom, the expectation has an echo, which is "don't need too much from me - take care of it yourself." I was trained to believe that I could and should do everthing...so I did. But I now find myself railing against the idea that I have to self-soothe, that I have to save myself, self-correct, self-contain, etc. etc. I'm tired of doing it myself and it is lonely. But it IS what grown ups do. And I DO it - even as I wish I had someone to do it for me.
As far as your assignment goes, it reminds me of when I was a kid and went to confession. I was a very good girl and the things I thought I needed to confess, I didn't dare tell anyone. So I would make stuff up - and then confess the next time about telling a lie. Or I would repeat stuff my mom yelled at me, as if it were true.
I don't know why the battle - I'd be dying to ask him what it is about this that he feels so strongly about? Feels like a power struggle instead of a productive assignment.
I still hope you finish it in one way or another.
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