Posted by blahblahblah on September 12, 2009, at 16:41:46
Hi all. So, I am 26 and have had the same problem with attachments for about 13 years now. I do not talk to my parents much. my mum was physically and emotionally abusive, i had time in foster care, few years in a hospital due to abuse. this was all mainly the first 5 years of my life. then rest of my time living with her she was highly medically sedated. Now I find that any mother figure that pays me the slightest bit of attention I get obsessed with. I think about them all the time, I need to be near them all the time. If they are not responding to me or giving me reassurance I get very very depressed. I am constantly anxious thinking about them, wanting to be near them. I have trouble attaching to people my own age, I am very fearful/avoidant. But when it comes to mother figures I want to move in with them and spend every second with them. I have a psychiatrist and a psychologist who say that building strong attachments will help me to overcome this, yet the more I attach the more i push the person away and think I am a huge burden to them. Does anyone else go through this kind of thing. I have had four major obsessions since i was 12. 2 teachers, one older work friend, and a therapist. they generally last for a few years, or until i push the person away totally out of fear of being hurt. I just want to know other peoples' experiences with this kind of thing and how they handled it.
I spoke bout this in another forum yet someone said it was schizoid disorder, which i disagree with. i think they're very dif. any opinions on that too?
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