Posted by annierose on October 6, 2011, at 17:40:05
In reply to Re: Is there such a thing a being too compatible? » Daisym, posted by Anemone on October 6, 2011, at 16:28:02
Intellectually, the face value of your concerns and insights make sense. But our emotional self doesn't much care about the workings of the intellect. The heart feels things so deeply since love is the only thing that matters.
You understand that this need is 'your work'. So continue working with your wonderful therapist as hard, painful, joyful, frustrating, loving, sweet, maddening ... as it is. To stop the work short, stops the progress you are making. You might feel like your need to see him is the reason why you are still in this relationship. I see it differently. You still are working on accepting that it is okay to need people, need loving attachments because you are okay, you are wonderful and you deserve it.
I have no doubt that love will come your way. Your heart is large, kind, accepting, smart, beautiful and loving - - - people see that in you. You need to see it in you too.
The contradictions are true. How can something that feels so good, also feel so bad. I think any of us in a close therapeutic bond comepletely understand that feeling 100%. When your t goes on vacation, you feel bad. Terminating early will not evaporate that feeling of longing.
I want you to know that you are loved. Keep working while questioning the process - your brain will sort it out.
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