Posted by AMB on March 17, 2013, at 18:30:25
Is it generally a good idea to share feelings of transference with your psychiatrist. Mine is partially romantic in that I am physically attracted to him, yet know that it is a fantasy and not a probability in real life. I am an adult in my 40's and began seeing him when I separated from my husband. He is very caring and supportive and has never crossed any boundaries so if I tell him I'm not afraid he'll do anything inappropriate. What I'm more afraid of is the possibility that he may terminate treatment because of this. I have a mood disorder, abandonment fears and am somewhat dependent on him (More so than my female therapist) so the thought of losing him as a doctor is very distressing to me. To make it more awkward, we have both been on the same dating site, which I think have made my feelings worse. He urged me to join a while back, and then a few months later joined himself. I wanted to bring up how he showed up on my page, but again lost courage. Is there a consensus among psychiatrists that it is generally helpful to discuss these feelings? For me, I think it would bring me out of my fantasy world and back to reality by getting it lout in the open. From there I'd like to think the infatuation would fade and enable me to focus on my real life issues. He is very kind and supportive but I still worry about his possible reaction and that he might be uncomfortable around me after I tell him. Is there an easy way to address this with a psychiatrist? I've brought it up to my female therapist that I see twice a month (in addition to the psychiatrist) but she doesn't seem to want to discuss it. I feel overwhelmed and childish about these feelings but can't seem to stop them...
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