Posted by J Kelly on May 10, 2016, at 21:40:02
In reply to Re: Procrastination » baseball55, posted by Horse on May 10, 2016, at 20:13:08
> I like this advice.
I do too :) Thanks baseball.
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> > > I was thinking of just putting one or two things on my calendar each week and MAKING myself do it. Maybe once I get started I'll be able to continue.
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> > I think that's the wrong attitude. If I force myself to do A, then maybe I'll get going and do X, Y and Z. I would approach it like AA does - one thing at a time. Do A. Only A. Don't think about ow doing A might give you the motivation to do X, etc. Don't worry about getting motivated at all. Just worry about doing A.
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> > I found that when I've been depressed, that was the best I could do. I need to get my grades in, so I'll force myself to do that, but then all bets were off. Also, does everything on your list really need to be done? Does your truck need to be clean, for example?
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> > I had a therapist who told me that I needed to be neutral about where I was - not stress myself out by telling myself I'm falling apart, can't function, can't go on like this. Just tell myself, okay. The best I can do today is sleep all day and maybe wash a few dishes. That's the best I can do today. Maybe another day I can do more. I found that advice very helpful.
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> > > > I remember once, when I was depressed and not getting things done, my husband said you need to feel competent and the way to do that is to do something competent. So I went to the library and graded papers, which I had been putting off and putting off and feeling more and more guilty about.
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> > > I know this is true. I don't have a husband to hold me accountable, so I think I'll bring it up at my therapy session this week. Maybe she can help me with a calendar with a to do list.
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> > Definitely bring it up in therapy. Having someone know what's going on and knowing they'll ask about it next week can be helpful.
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> > > Jade
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