Posted by Racer on September 28, 2000, at 1:28:18
In reply to Jane: Art thou inspired?, posted by shar on September 20, 2000, at 11:22:16
Big topic, yeah. It's one I've wrestled with a lot, with only a little insight.
I do know that my mother was perfect until I was about 10 years old, and that she paid a lot of attention to me, teaching me to trust her absolutely. So, hitting puberty with all the crap that happened then was devastating. Mother turned into a witch, she even admits that she didn't know what to do and fell down on the job.
So, what do I do? I don't know, but I know that I hold a bit of myself back, while otherwise trusting until proved wrong. It means that I get hurt a fair amount, but the part I hold back helps keep me in one piece.
Friendship is a hard question, too. I know that I'm better about it now, though, because I no longer waste my time with 'friends I don't like that much', formerly a large group of my social network. Now I only waste time with friends I like and respect -- not a waste at all! And I'm trying to learn to pay attention to that little frisson of doubt that tells me when someone isn't going to be my friend. It's usually right!
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