Posted by Jena Lyn on October 3, 2000, at 21:34:17
In reply to Re: when life throws you a curve, posted by shar on October 3, 2000, at 20:19:40
All,
I feel like Im at the end of my rope. I just need to GET away, seriously, like for a week with NO ONE around me, no distractions...I don't know. I don't even think that would help. My mind is my worst enemy right now. I can't sleep, I can't do anything ... the CHAOS thats battling in my mind is consuming me and I JUST WANT IT ALL TO STOP. I don't know what to do, Im thinking of calling my therapist...I haven't been in therapy since April, I think its about time I head back ... my friends don't understand, one of my biggest problems right now is with my ex-best friend/best friend whatever she is now, we got in this huge fight last night and she did what she always does, THREW EVERYTHING in my face. I feel like she gets mad at me for being sick, for being sad, for being annorexic, for being ME and i cannot deal with it AT ALL. Why does she have to do that? Just because she can, because she knows all about me and all about whats "wrong" with me? Its now fair...and its not like I can just avoid her or take her out of the situation, she's in all of my classes, we have mutual friends, etc...I really don't know what to do ... anyways, thanks for listening...I hope you guys are doing better than I am...
Jena> Jena--
> So glad to hear from you! I've been thinking about you.
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> One thing that may possibly help is to be very aware of "where you go" once this has happened. Usually, if something is awful, and we are in the present time, we feel awful, we may cry, we may get afraid. None of those Feelings will damage you.
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> Too often, though, we go somewhere else. We have a feeling and then make a prediction of what it means, what's going to happen, etc. Or, we may go back to some event that was traumatic to us and then get hopeless that it will never end, etc.
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> The trick is to stay in the present where it feels really crappy. This is my humble opinion. Although it feels crappy, that's where you are. You don't have to change it, you don't have to "get out of the mood" or whatever.
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> Unless you are seriously concerned about hurting yourself, then you need to call a counselor or go to the ER.
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> I think things that are distracting are good. They don't even have to be fun. Even just getting out of the house can be good, go to a store, or window shopping or people watching; talking to a friend can be a great help even if you aren't talking about what's bothering you. But will that take the feeling crappy away 100% ? Probably not.
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> The feeling will go away, though, and in the meantime, like the others have said, try to do something else. You will come around if you give yourself a chance.
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> Good luck,
> Shar
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