Posted by Hannah on November 10, 2000, at 15:49:15
In reply to Re: I'm not going to say anymore » Hannah, posted by Cam W. on November 10, 2000, at 13:34:26
> Hannah - This will be my final word on the subject, as well.
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> I respect your right to have your opinion about what Greg said, but personally, I do not believe that Greg said anything that should warrant an apology. This is just my opinion, though. I read Greg's post and it was obvious to me that it was meant in a light-hearted, humorous way. Obviously, you do not agree with me, but that's human nature and free speech. No biggie, at all.AAAAAAAMEN! but I still think it's really Greg's business whether or not he apologizes!! Greg seems to be the only one who agrees with me that it was offensive. Maybe I should join the crowd and beg him to come back so at least I won't be totally alone on this!!!!
I would appreciate a little support if anyone has any to spare. I feel like I got put through a meat grinder for saying I was offended by something he said. It was true I was.
I think the term political incorrectness really excuses a lot of behavior that is a lot worse than Gregs. It's become politically correct to be politically incorrect. It makes people (including me) more and more afraid to stand up for anything they believe in.
Stereotypical humor is a tricky area at best and in a public arena like this even more so. Everyone probably says things among friends that he wouldn't say among strangers. But there are always "strangers" in the conversation in an open forum whether they post or not.
If Greg had not left after he apologized that would have been the end of it at least for me.
I think emotional/verbal/psychological abuse is a real problem. I didn't accuse Greg of any of that. I said what he said was offensive. I think he prevented abuse by taking me seriously and apologizing. I think humor is often used by abusers and it is better to err on the side of caution when it comes to hurting people. I regret that I didn't make a clearer distinction between the general statements about abuse and the specific complaint I made. There are obviously varying degrees of abuse or offensive behaviour and Greg's was (to me at least) fairly minor.
But I don't think I deserved the attacks on me that followed or the lack of support. Or the insinuations that I was a chronic victim who courted abuse. And nobody seemed to think those things were offensive at all. Everyone wants to stop posting about it but only after taking a shot at me!So I hope greg comes back too!
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