Posted by mr. man on December 8, 2000, at 18:11:48
In reply to Fear of passing mental illness gene to kids, posted by PhoenixGirl on December 7, 2000, at 13:23:44
Why continue the cycle, thats what your saying, and your right, you shouldnt continue the cycle, when you say its a big part of life, its only going to be a big part of life if you have a child, you dont have to have children to live a full and meaningful life do you, just because everyone has kids doesnt mean you have to or should, you want to have kids, but is that really a good idea, only you know the answer,also I just thought id mention there are about 6 billion other people in the world that are going to have kids. the survival of our species doesnt depend on you, know what I mean, I dont know how women think but I would guess that eventually they hear their biological clock ticking and its a desision made by the emotions, not the brain, and as far as a guy wanting children and caring about your mental illness gene, I think there are many guys that dont want kids, if there is real love there then some mental illness wont matter, and marrage, well the average marrage lasts what, I dont know just for a guess 5 years, anyway if you dont like my post then just forget about it, for some reason I just coundnt resist
> Hi. I´m 22, and I would really like to have kids someday. However, there is a mental illness gene that plagues my family. My sister and I have had depression since we were 12 years old. I have had some obsessive-compulsive disorder and a great deal of generalized anxiety disorder. My mom is bipolar. My paternal grandfather died from alcoholism, and my maternal half-aunt committed suicide.
> Clearly, there is a misery gene in my family. Whenever I´m in the throes of a terrible depression, I feel that I could never risk putting another person through this. For that reason, I am considering not having any children. If I had a child, and that child suffers the way I have suffered, I would feel extremely guilty. But I really want children of my own, and I´m sure my future husband will too. If a guy wanted children and/or knew of my mental illness gene, he may think twice about marrying me. Also, if I don´t have kids I will be missing out on a big part of life.
> Does anybody else out there feel this torment? Please share your thoughts.
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