Posted by ms. b. on February 15, 2001, at 0:04:06
In reply to Re: Emotions » willow, posted by judy1 on February 14, 2001, at 21:23:53
Hey Judy and others,
This thread is really interesting, and perhaps ties in with the one on male or female therapists...Mine is a woman, I guess I wanted one because I knew of my own tendency to hit on older, wiser men (not therapists but teachers/professors), sometimes by presenting myself as vulnerable, or empathetic, or whatever. I shopped around for her by calling a whole list of therapists and asking them questions on the phone about their method of treatment, etc. I just liked the voice of this woman, it was soothing and comforting, and what I've needed is a "mother" who accepts me just as I am, no judgements about behavior which might reflect in a negative way on her, etc. Which was just what my "real" mother could not give me... After almost 9 years with the same therapist, I still haven't made up for a lifetime of mother-problems.
But still, Judy, it does take a lot of guts/balls (wrong word, but stay with me here), or whatever, to proposition your therapist with a bottle of Dom Perignon! Somehow, I admire this behavior, even though I know it's out of bounds and can lead to a whole lot of trouble, as you well know from the previous experience. And I also admire your telling the group about your crossing the boundaries in a therapeutic relationship, it's a level of candor we sometimes never even get with our closest friends.
So thanks, everybody, for the interesting discussion, and to Judy who began it...
B.
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