Posted by Glenn Fagelson on August 9, 2001, at 22:18:19
In reply to Re: What would you do? Help me. » susan C, posted by Marie1 on August 9, 2001, at 8:23:58
> Susan,
> My brother killed himself at the age of 32 (4 yrs. ago). I don't think I'll ever get over it, but it comforts me to think that maybe he's happier now. Both my parents were gone by then - my mother in '95, and my dad in '92 (on the same day!!) I'm glad they didn't have to suffer through what we did. I lost another brother recently (natural causes), and I realized the pain of mourning a suicide is different in some ways. It would have killed my parents.
> I'm so sorry about your brother. Were you close in age? Was there any history of mental illness or any forewarning? It's so awful - now I'm the one crying on the keyboard. Hugs to you.
>
> MarieDear Marie,
Your story like the others is so
heart-rending; life is not easy, is it?
Glenn
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> > Dear Gracie,
> >
> > I would probably have done the same thing.
> >
> > You don't describe what happened after he started crying. Did you touch him? Will you contact him to let him now know how you feel?
> >
> > Like Greg, I too dont understand your spouse's reaction, except that I too have had mine intercede when I am about to do something that 'will make things worse' and later, begrudgingly, I have appreciated his help.
> >
> > Has he cried about the loss of your brother?
> >
> > When you were describing the scene with your dad, I imagined my dad across the table from me.
> >
> > You see, my dad died of cancer three months before my brother suicided. So, I haven't heard a word from my dad about my brother's death. True, it is different situation, but I would like to think that we would have cried together, held hands and grieved the loss of a great guy whom we loved.
> >
> > From a keyboard wet with tears, hugs
> > -S
> >
> >
poster:Glenn Fagelson
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