Posted by Wendy B. on August 31, 2001, at 23:46:45
In reply to Re: looking for opinions, advice on having a baby..., posted by NikkiT2 on August 31, 2001, at 16:37:05
> I may only be 26, but this is also on my mind heavily. My husband and I, ever since we met, have known when we want tos tat trying, and that time gets closer and closer. Now I am not sure whetther I am in a good pposition to be a parent, and I ever will be... If i say no to children I would also most likely lose my husband.
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> Only you know how you feel at the moment, and whether you think that between you and the babies father you can raise another child in a good way. You are already raising one, and probabl,y do a totally fab job of it.
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> If you are worried about the post partum dperession, how about starting treament as soon as you have given birth to help prevent the onset of pp.
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> Only an idea, but I think a child would be worth this no?
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> Good luck
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> Nikki xx
Cindy,
I agree with the things Nikki says - you don't have to nurse the baby, so could go on the meds right after the baby is born. Also, monitoring your moods during the pregnancy, via therapy, would probably be a good idea.If you've found baby #1 so rewarding, and you talk about it as though you have, surely your #2 will be wonderful too. Different, because all children are, but equally wonderful. If you think your child should have a sibling, then you're probably right. You'll never regret having another child, but if you don't do it because of your worries, you could regret it for a lifetime...
There are no guarantees in life, for anyone. So you may pass a *susceptibility* to your illness to your children, but you may not. Even if you do, isn't life still worth living, and wouldn't it be for them as well, even though they might become ill? Look at all of us, struggling every day, but keepin' on keepin' on, looking for beauty where/when we can, through it all. Does this make any sense?
Another thing: you'd know what to look for if your child did become ill, and you'd be better able to help them get any treatment they might need.
Hope some of this helps...
Wendy
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