Posted by shelliR on September 27, 2001, at 22:50:29
In reply to Re: My therapist lost a family member in WTC attack » Noa, posted by Mair on September 25, 2001, at 18:02:39
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> "Several years ago, my therapist's wife died at a young age. I, too, experienced some of the self-conscious thoughts described in this thread, but my therapist was comfortable processing them with me, and helped me to feel that my feelings and needs and issues were still important, that comparisons are beside the point."
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> Sorry Noa, but I couldn't let this one pass without comment. I don't care how much of a professional your therapist is/was. I have a very difficult time imagining him being able to speak about this in detached terms with his patients. I'd like to hear more about this. I have recently found myself in the knowledge about some info about my therapist's personal life. I sort of feel like I should bring this to her attention (let her know i know) but I can't seem to bring myself to do this and i don't want to put her on the spot. It's nothing on the order of what you're talking about, but it's still awkward.
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> BTW welcome back although I'm sorry for the circumstances that brought you back.
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> Mair (fka ksvt)Mair, I'm going to have to agree with Noa here. I think that one loses a spouse it may be a long time before they feel ready to date again, but I think it would not take that long to be able to focus outside oneself on a patient's problems. I think it may be exactly what the therapist needs, in terms of getting out of grief mode, distraction. I can see easily a therapist saying yes, he has suffered a great tragedy, but he is gettng lots of support around that and is feeling ready to return to his work. To say that he/she would not be able to set aside those feelings to help other people seems like a horrible double whammy for s someone's horrible loss. Not only have they lost a significant partner,but now you are asking that they also lose another significant part of their lives--work.
Perhaps, I misunderstood you?
Shelli
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