Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2002, at 17:56:39
In reply to Re: taking a break from your therapist?, posted by Lini on January 9, 2002, at 16:00:22
> thank you cmcdougall, JohnDoenut (funny) and Mair. Glad to know that therapy vacation isn't necessarily a sign of impending neurochemical disaster. i definitely am going to take the time to re-identify my goals.
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> Now, this "best patient" and "money" thing are indeed my issues. Am I really the only person who feels weird about paying someone fifty bucks to cry for an hour? It's not that I don't consider therapy a service, therapy just seems similar to being a really good friend to a person, makes me wonder if I should be writing checks to my bestfriend as well? :)Only fifty bucks an hour? I would love to pay that. My counselor is more expensive than any of the psychologists I have consulted. But maybe part of the problem is that therapy feels like friendship to you. Somehow I think that really good therapy seems nothing at all like friendship. Maybe you need to find a different therapist who makes therapy seem like therapy (affirming and supportive sometimes, at other times hard work and often uncomfortable).
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> And, no one else wants to be a good patient? I must be a freak, cause my nightmare would be finding out that my therapist would rather eat mud than sit through a session with me.
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I have no particular desire to be a good patient - a good girl definitely (that's my issue) but not a good patient. And since I'm fairly good at reading people, I know that there are times my therapist would rather eat mud than sit through a session with me. But there are times I would rather eat mud than sit through a session with him too. Then there are really good sessions that make it all seem worthwhile.> okay, okay, re-reading this, I DO have issues!
Why don't you try some reading about therapy. Have you read In Session by Deborah Lott? Or you could do some research on the different types of therapy - CBT, DBT, analytic, etc. Then you could go back to this or another therapist with clear goals and expectations.
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