Posted by terra miller on May 24, 2002, at 16:43:38
In reply to Re: your post does not sound silly at all... » krazy kat, posted by Dinah1 on May 24, 2002, at 12:28:39
perhaps this is overstepping my bounds (hope not) but it sounds more like you are in conflict more than that you have actually decided upon your decision. only you know this- if you are giving into old mental "tapes" that tell you that you have no choices nor the strength to do anything about them. remember that if you are currently stressed and tired, then you are more likely to feel overwhelmed and without strength rolling over and not giving an opinion at all.
i know what it's like to make personal mental sacrifices. but i have also found that, though it might take more effort sometimes than others, there usually is a solution which all of me can live with. i do not think that you necessarily have to say goodbye to parts of you, but i do think it's good that you are aware and that it's respectful to listen long enough to hear all the options out.
you are strong for a reason. you are creative for a reason. and you deal with an angry father a certain way for a reason, too. it is very possible for all of that to co-exist.
and there are no rules that say you have to do anything, even the rule so-to-speak that you have an obligation to care for your parents. care for them if you want to, but not because you feel obligated to. you don't have to be powerless now.
hope you understood that.~terra
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