Posted by IsoM on June 16, 2002, at 23:39:56
In reply to is my violence sane ?, posted by omega man on June 16, 2002, at 19:31:22
Hey, I know you asked for a guy's experience but I'd like to ask something, if I could. Besides, I grew up with 3 brothers, no sisters, played with boys mostly as I grew up, & had 3 sons, no girls. I'm told I think more like a man than a woman except where emotions are important.
The force you used on these guys that were bothering you - do you consider it excessive, or was that amount of force (& the hockey stick) needed to get through to men bigger than you & drunk besides?
Did you feel like you were out of control while doing this? Did you just 'lose it', go amok?
I'm around some real gentle, peaceful guys (sons & their friends) who don't ever look for trouble & do go out of their way to avoid it, but I know if they're really pushed into a corner, they'd defend themselves & it has happened a couple of times. It's not a thing to be proud of & neither them nor I would advocate violent force, but honestly, to expect a man *never* to respond like that is unrealistic. Doesn't mean that it gives any one an out for their actions, but I think it's only human to respond when pushed too far.
If you did 'lose it' though, & used excessive violence, it may be a good thing to bring up to your doctor next time you see him. Only you can judge your actions really, not others here.
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