Posted by Phil on July 3, 2002, at 18:05:39
In reply to The move to a new city...., posted by janejj on July 2, 2002, at 16:12:02
If you're an alcoholic, adult child of an alcoholic, have a friend or family member whose drinking is making you crazy, there is no better or safer place to meet people than at 12 step groups. When I moved here 10 years ago, I got involved in Al-Anon and ACOA. I met some guys that were healthy, liked to have fun, supported each others dreams, etc. I have never made close friends that fast. However, you really should talk and let people know you.
Or..
CODA: Codependents Anonymous-I think most of us would feel at home there.
NAMI: May have meetings in your area.
Church is good if it rings your bell.
Often hospitals will have speakers on various health topics, including depression. May be able to get a good shrink referral there.
Shop very slowly for groceries.
Take a six week introductory yoga class. You'll like it!
If a health food store has cooking classes, try that out.
Colleges in the area probably have classes on anything from personal finance to jumping out of planes. The classes are reasonable usually and you learn something new.
Take geetar lessons.
Go to the park or lake and pretend to read a book. I usually take Final Exit but it doesn't attract many girls.
Tour the city like a tourist would. Sit close to the guide so you can throw in some extra questions.
If you're at your destination, you could ask a cab driver where the good restaurants, clubs, etc are.
I got to know my apt manager real well when I moved to Austin. Just went in, flopped on the couch and started talking. Grew into a good friendship.
Find the designated walking/jogging area and go sweat with everyone else.The BIG SECRET that we all know but seldom do is listen to people. When you meet someone, develop good listening skills. I've always admired Larry King for that reason. Anyone that truly listens to others will make friends..guaranteed.
To make a friend, be a friend.Don't date a co-worker unless you just can't resist. There are worse things than being alone.
It's going to be so exciting! YeeHaa
Phil
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