Posted by Ted on August 16, 2002, at 22:35:20
In reply to Re: screwing up our kids » BeArDedLADY, posted by Dinah on August 16, 2002, at 21:53:09
Dinah & Beardy,
> I can see a few ways that I am repeating the same patterns as my mother. I guess that's inevitable.
Only if you want there to be.
Fortunately my wife knows and understands how seriously her parents messed up and she is determined not to repeat the same mistakes (too many to list here). Her sister, OTOH, is oblivious to their parents' parenting problems and is raising her family in the traditional dysfunctional style.
> But for the most part, I'm trying to come up with my own dysfunctional parenting style. I expect my son to start a support group when he grows up for "Children of Moms who Memorized all the Parenting Books". :)
ROFLMBAOUIC
My son's group will be "Children of moms who read all the parenting books and decided the authors were full of crap and from dysfunctional families of their own".
Yikes! too wordy. Anyway, my wife won't listen to *anybody* (often even me). It's amazing just how much is biological, though. Our son, at 6-1/2, shows all the OCD and potentially bipolar/depressed behaviors my wife and I have, and I don't think they are learned because we are constantly trying to un-teach them.
Ted
PS: My secretary has a bumper sticker which reads:"MY FAMILY IS MORE DYSFUNCTIONAL THAN YOUR FAMILY"
(and her's really is!)
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