Posted by IsoM on January 16, 2003, at 13:30:44
In reply to Re: Deep Muscle Massage for Depression?? » IsoM, posted by Dinah on January 16, 2003, at 12:44:45
Oh, you funny girl! Once you've had your baby, the Lamaze folks don't care any more! Did you ever seek out help with Le Leché League? While they deal with breast-feeding issues, they're wonderfully helpful in many other matters too - just wonderful. I've counselled other young mothers about breast-feeding & answered any other questions I could. There's a comradrie among nursing mothers.
But like you, Dinah, I hate being touched by strangers (a gentle hug from a friendly woman I've connected with for a short while is fine though). The only reason this one therapist was good for me as he was such a sweet young guy & reminded me very much of my sons. He treated me in a respectful motherly manner which made me quite comfortable once I got to know him better. We'd talk about all manners of things while I had the massaging done - very discrete & completely respectable.
I hate group activities of most sorts so I taught myself the breathing & relaxation techniques & did a great job with them. One of the nurses at the hospital where my 2nd son was born said I did fantastic - he'd never seen any one else do so well (but that's going back 26 years!).
Isn't it funny how things have changed? Now, when one has a baby, you're ushered home the same day or the next. When I had my sons, I signed myself out the next day afterward with each one. I was even told by a few nurses, & other people (not friends!!), that I was irresponsible & a terrible person to do so. With my 1st son, he was kept in the nursery. The other 2 were allowed in the room with me during the day but taken away at night. I wouldn't stand for that! They even tried bottle-feeding my 1st though I was nursing him just fine! He refused that cold, hard bottle, I'm proud to say.
After my 1st birthing, I was adamant that I wasn't going to be routinely cut & given enemas. I wanted some control over such a personal matter & said so but in as tactful a manner as possible. The doctor drew himself up indignantly & said "Madam, you've only had one baby. I've had many hundreds!" I didn't bother asking him how he had accomplished such a miraculous feat & why it wasn't written up in the medical journals. Suffice to say, he WASN'T the doctor I got to deliver my 2nd son. He soon was forced to retire due to severe alcohol problems. Maybe it's what contributed to his arrogance.
Sorry...I digress, but I thought you'd be amused by the story, Dinah.
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