Posted by lostsailor on May 8, 2003, at 21:18:44
In reply to Re: For leeran, what people think of ..., posted by leeran on May 5, 2003, at 14:41:50
After chatting at length with therapist, I decided that I am going to "up-grade" their air fair offers as part of my gift and send them something else for the house, but am not sure what yet. We are all into music so probably a gift certificate from a local high-fidelity music store or something. They, nor am I, really the registry type.
Part of me, just wants to send money for a vasectomy...lmao
Therapist, Chris, agrees with doc and me that this seems to be a bit of mind-manipulation. The way it has been approached seems so much to "guilt" me into coming as opposed as to see me see them. I feel like he wants me there just as he always has and that is to get me to move there...
I have know for a long time that he is not really into marriage but she really wants it and I am not judging on either side. He thinks promises are enough and I think she wants the "formalities" for things like a "legitimate" last name, you all know what I meat. I think he's afraid of losing things if he gets divorced!!!
I don't want to make this sound as bad as it will, but it was agreed that "misery loves company" with me either causing embarrassment (simple panic attacks ect,---showing up or "sticking" him with ticket costs--not showing)
Now the balls in my court. They are not having a traditional wedding or reception ect., so now money is not a guilt trip on me at all. If I show, and I hope I do, I'll be there to help and celebrate however I can. I am going to bring a bike and ride Big Sur and down the pacific before I leave and some of the redwoods --they are in the way north of CA--while I am after the wedding ect. I'll have a car for the bay area concert, park , mission discreet and all the stuff I want to see. So I am totally happy. I think Rhonda will think this is ideal. Now it's on Chuck---I think I just pulled the football away prior to his big kick (Snoopy fans will know what I mean)
Thank you ALL so much for the help!!!!At ast in peace,
~tony
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