Posted by katia on August 10, 2003, at 0:16:24
In reply to 33 year old male, re-entering dating 'market'..:-), posted by jay on August 8, 2003, at 2:29:21
> I know I've brought this subject up much before, but I really could use some womanly advice on this. (And guys..your insights are welcome too.)
> Overall, it seems hard to find a woman in her 30's who is not married/engaged, etc. Many are also single mothers, but that really doesn't bother me too much, as long as it is a stable situation (i.e. the 'ex' doesn't live in the basement of her house!) and the person may be willing to have another child with me. (Boy..I am JUMPING WAY ahead of myself!..heh..)
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> I am considering putting out a singles personal ad, either on the internet or on one of those telephone dating services. I know there is all of this talk about joining a club or a class or something, but I am working on my second university degree, and need that extra time to devout to my schoolwork. (I am taking a distance education program, so there is *nil* classroom/campus interaction.)
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> The only major problemetic area is ruined finances through years of unemployment and debt because I went from a proffessional job to nothing. I am working, slowly, on changing that to, though.
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> So..I am really looking for suggestions...even open-ended advise, etc. DDating in your 30's is so much different then in late teens or 20's. I don't mind a bit of 'baggage', but again, as long as it rarely interferes with a healthy relationship. Obviously I am a bit leary of someone who is divorced, but I am willing to give it a shot as long as they are very dedicated also.
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> So..I hope to hear from as many as possible..:-)
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> Thanks very much again..
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> Peace,
> Jay
Just thought I'd put my two cents in. I would MUCH prefer to be with someone who has already had a broken heart. who has endured that and come out wiser and experienced on the other side. No way do I want a green man. I wouldn't be so quick to disregard a "past". It's better than being the teacher. let someone else do it and get him/her when hopefully they've grown up and learned a thing or two about love and relationships! know what I mean?I live in the bay area of Cal. and a lot of people are doing match maker thingies. It's starting to be common - go for it! why not? put it out there what you want and see what happens!
good luck!
Katia
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