Posted by Arrianna on September 1, 2003, at 22:58:44
In reply to Re: thanks, » Arrianna, posted by gabbix2 on September 1, 2003, at 22:30:50
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I totally "hear" you. It is easy for us who are in a bad mental state to forgive others because we feel so horrible about ourselves and think we deserve it.I've heard it's this vulnerability that predators/abusers "sniff" out. It's like they have a radar or something. They truly do have a keen "sense" for it.
I didn't think I was vulnerable when I met this guy, but looking back now, I had alot of emotional crap going on. I've been trying to leave my son's dad for some time now, and when I had met him, I was making plans to leave. (The relationship with my son's dad is another story: not abusive, just very UNHEALTHY for me and some emotional abuse, I guess). Anyway, that's when this guy really started to move in on me.
Again, I really feel for you! We don't ever deserve to be abused in any circumstance. Can I ask you if you are going to counseling now? Also, how long have you been out of this relationship? If it's not too hard for you, I'd like to hear more about your experience. I think it could help me. But, REALLY, I understand if it's too difficult.
Hugs,
Arrianna
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