Posted by galkeepinon on September 10, 2003, at 14:32:03
In reply to Re: Feelings:'( » galkeepinon, posted by madwand on September 10, 2003, at 13:50:47
I am so glad you didn't delete this. Of course you don't sound trivial to me at all!
Thank you so much. I wish those concepts didn't evolve either or been invented! Yes, you gave me support and I appreciate it so very much!
Exactly, I feel like when I sometimes struggle in quicksand~yep!
Thank you for teaching me that it's OK not to be OK, I was raised in a very, let me think, family where no feelings were ever discussed and everything had to be happy and fine all the time, when they weren't most of the time. It didn't start until I got a little older (about 13) but still. Yes, and to heck ;) with the idiots in my head telling me I am worthless or inferior or I will never be anything, or that I'm scared and have no courage. And I've got to drop the people who on the outside who don't support me or know how to push my buttons so to speak. Thanks.
Your words mean more than you ever know and I appreciate it very much.
Thank you.
> Galkeepinon,
> Sometimes I wish the whole concept of "self-centered" and "pity-pot" had not been invented -- IMHO they do more harm than good.
> I am a relatively newcomer here and have only posted a few times. But am not new to where it sounds like you are at. And I confess I am not really good at being "supportive", but I have noticed one particular thing that helps when I am in that kind of space, and that is allowing myself to be there.
> Sounds trivial? It really isn't. It is amazing how programmed we are against that, as evidenced by the concepts mentioned above ("pity pot", "self centered"). While it is not any kind of instant cure, I have found it to help. I know -- it is very counter-intuitive (when every part of you is screaming to "make this better"), but (at least for me) it seems like the harder you fight it the stronger it gets (like struggling in quicksand).
> In other words, "its OK to be not OK", and to blazes with all of those folks (inside and outside of your head) telling you otherwise!
> In re-reading this I am almost tempted to deleted it (it looks trite when I read it) but I am going to put it out there anyway (i.e. "take what you need and leave the rest"). And hang in there. You are beloved part of this board and you are not alone!
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