Posted by Penny on December 29, 2003, at 13:31:13
In reply to Just wanted to say..., posted by Penny on December 29, 2003, at 9:57:03
A story about Christmas at my grandmother's house, which was crazy...
So my mom's older brother shows up with his grandson, who we hadn't seen in over 2 years. The child is 11, and it was his younger sister that told their mom (my cousin) that my grandfather touched her, which was followed by my cousin taking her two kids and moving out of my grandparents' house and then, later, my grandfather committing suicide. My cousin swore then that she would never set foot in my grandparents' house again...
Well, she came to pick up her son that afternoon on Christmas day, and did set foot in the house - sat down and made herself at home in fact - and my mom's younger brother left as soon as she got there - there's still a great deal of anger over many things that have happened regarding my cousin, her children, and my grandparents. But it's a long story that I won't go into right now. My great aunt (my grandmother's youngest sister) asked me, "Should I even go say anything to (your cousin)?" and I told her it was up to her. I hadn't seen my cousin since before my grandfather's suicide - hadn't talked to her since shortly after his death. And she hasn't changed. Not one bit.
My cousin has problems. Not that we don't all have problems, but she refuses to face them. Her soon-to-be-ex has custody of their little girl, b/c my cousin claims she hasn't the money to hire a lawyer to fight to keep her. So she rarely sees her daughter. Her son lives with her. He recently saw his biological father for the first time. He abandoned them when the child was about 10 months old, then later ended up in jail for molesting a little girl. He got out of jail not too long ago and my cousin decided it was fine for her son to spend Thanksgiving with his father, though he'd never met him before. His dad is now back in jail for violating probation. And she and her son are living with her latest boyfriend. She and her boyfriend share the bedroom and her son sleeps on the couch in the travel trailer they live in. OR her son sleeps with her in the bed and the boyfriend sleeps on the couch. My grandmother asked her where her daughter sleeps when she's visiting (the daughter is 7), and my cousin replied that she sleeps in the bed with her and her boyfriend. Sigh.
My cousin is so proud that her son is no longer on medication, minus taking Strattera for ADD. Uh...okay... The child kept making comments about how he should just poison himself, and when he would get mad at himself over something small (like putting the batteries in his new toy in backwards), he would start beating himself in the head. Sounds like a perfectly well-adjusted kid to me. It was so obvious that he's still soooo ANGRY. And much of it is directed toward his mother, my cousin, who doesn't see a problem at all. She remarked that her STBE won't take their daughter to therapy, though she firmly believes that the child was molested by my grandfather. I don't even want to think about what kind of life that child is living with her dad, who I don't have a very good opinion of either.
I gave my cousin's son my home and cell phone numbers, and told him to call me collect any time he needs to. I don't know how he could - they don't have a phone - but maybe if something happens he will. This whole thing still makes me upset. And my cousin spent all the time she was there talking about herself. That's all she ever talks about - it's not about her kids. It's not about anyone else. It's all about her. Her, her, her. Non-stop.
I still have no use for her. This whole situation is so screwed up...
P
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