Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 28, 2004, at 20:46:10
In reply to Re: Fluoxetine and Alcohol, posted by inthegloaming on February 28, 2004, at 9:58:38
There is one issue that you talked about that I think you should hear.
The way you describe your condition, you weren't in a position to say no, or yes with any real idea of the outcome. That's what happens when we get ourselves into a mess that we weren't ready for. If you hadn't been in that state, you would have easily been able to say no.
It doesn't matter why a person is incapacitated, whether it's from drinking, drugs, illness, whatever. The point is that you shouldn't have been taken advantage of.
People might say that the person who committed the assault was drunk too, so the fault should be shared. That argument won't hold water with a court. Not usually, at least. If someon gets behind a wheel when drunk, they can't claim impaired judgement. You weren't at fault. You weren't at fault. You weren't at fault. Don't listen to anyone who tells you were.
I had an example tonight that involved my daughter (9 years old). We were doing some woodburning for a craft today. At supper, with my parents, she had a bowl of icewater. My family being too religious, said that her godmother should pray to her grandfather and the burn would go away. After this prayer, her finger wasn't better. She has a small blister. My parents and brother kept telling her she didn't need the ice, the burn was gone and it didn't hurt anymore. I asked if it hurt, and she said yes. At one point, my brother took her Ice and dumped it in the sink. I got her more ice, and had a talk to her about invalidation.
The point is that we can become convinced that we were in the wrong if we keep buying into the lies of the culture. There is no rule that says that if you for whatever reason don't say no, that it means that you agreed to whatever happened to you. What happened was wrong. It doesn't matter what you did or didn't say. You were wronged and it's not your fault.
Dee.
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