Posted by 64Bowtie on April 13, 2004, at 14:40:31
What's going on here....?
I was told that I am no longer welcome to meet with a group of seniors. I thought they were my friends. They have turned on me.
Then I discovered that one of the seniors that would get very upset with change when I mentioned it, told the group that she saw me on TV talking bad about the group and how I had painted the group as hopeless. I was dumbfounded.
First of all, I have been shown on TV talking to seniors in the background while the feature writer narrated their story. The writer never quoted a word I said. Also, the writer reported how comfortable these seniors appeared with the learning process.
Second, a couple of guys from the group who meet for coffee every morning met with me and mentioned that they thought it was hooey, since she keeps repeating the story over and over, making small changes each time. "Its like she's writing a book or a screen-play, and changing the plot as she goes", one said. Never-the-less, the majority voted me out so I willingly honor the group by staying away.
I ask myself, "Is this a conflict?" Sure. And real easy to manage into win-win. Will I try? "Let it lay" is safer. If someone is telling stories and can sway the group about something from her imagination now, it'll happen again. So me and the two coffee meeters will keep meeting till things change. Since the group can be so influenced by her (changing) testimony, I best chock this one up to experience, and move on....
Rod
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