Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 24, 2005, at 13:41:48
In reply to Re: Needy friends » NikkiT2, posted by Shy_Girl on May 22, 2005, at 13:22:33
Ok, I understand. :-) I think it might be better if everyone didn't respond to my frequent requests for validation...I will never learn that way. It is better for me to realize that people do care even if they are not constantly reassuring me.
Oh I don't think you don't have to be that drastic. You are a trooper though! Most everyone needs validation, and for some of us, it takes a long time and a lot of work to learn to give it to ourselves. With your insight and determination you are definitely on the right track though, I'm sure it will happen for you. Until then, well, once you've learned (not *you* personally) the sad truth, that the more you need reassurance the less likely you are to get it, well.. you just get a little bit cagier about how you ask for it. ; )
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