Posted by smokeymadison on July 4, 2005, at 16:00:24
In reply to a special kind of pain, posted by Ivan Michael on July 4, 2005, at 9:10:26
I cut for the past two years. i just stopped about three months ago. my boyfriend told me it was either the blade or him. now, i don't recomend telling her that, because she has to be ready to quit. luckily, i was ready to quit when my boyfriend told me to chose. i can imagine the emptiness you feel, b/c i have seen my boyfriend's face when i cut and he found out. cutting sometimes hurts and sometimes doesn't hurt--it is different for different people.
there is nothing you can do to change her--the cutting is a coping tool she has learned to use when things become too much. she has to unlearn it. she has to find other ways to deal with life than cutting. that takes therapy. it is nothing you have done, and there is nothing you can do until she is ready to quit. it is a very real addiction.
i don't have a lot of advice on what you should do right now, hopefully somebody else will have some better ideas than i do.
good luck,
SM
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