Posted by tina on July 31, 2006, at 21:46:58
In reply to Feeling a little guilty this morning » tina, posted by Kath on July 31, 2006, at 8:52:28
> I then said that as soon as they've got jobs & a good place to live, I want him to begin paying back money that he owes....that even a small amount every month will be better than waiting longer for a larger amount.
>
> Part of me feels really good. This feels like a 'normal' healthy adult-to-adult interaction.
> THEN there's the weird part:
> 'Oh dear - if he hasn't contacted bio-Dad & again doesn't have a place to stay this'll feel horrible to him! Might just be the extra bit of stress that pushes him over the edge'
> And stupid thoughts like that.
>
> luv, Kath
>Well, first of all, they aren't "stupid" thoughts. They are relevant and important to you. No more of that negative self talk, ok?
Also, I'm glad you were assertive about the money. There is a money issue in my family that has been draggin on and on for years and it has effectively torn my family apart. We used to be four people and now we are two pairs, not talking or seeing one another. If you don't settle money issues within families, it will always be the "elephant in the room." Why am I telling you this when you already know it? hehe.
I have got to get some sleep. I'm off to PEI this week. Can't afford it but what they he**, I only live once, right? Well, I don't really subscribe to that theory but it is a well known saying...hahaha.
Love ya Kath
T
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