Posted by scratchpad on May 2, 2007, at 11:40:51
In reply to Thanks everyone; he's checked in, posted by Kath on May 2, 2007, at 10:55:48
(((Kath))) I think you need a hug above all else.
Your son's future is in his hands, and it's his responsibility. That doesn't mean that family shouldn't be supportive, but the practical role must be his!I see what my step daughter is going through, and I wonder - at what point does someone grow up? When do they assume ownership of their potential and future? When does helping become enabling? Sigh. I know we've all heard it before.
Be there to listen.
Be there to give emotional support.
If you give financial support, make sure it has a written plan for repayment, however slow. Hold the other person to that agreement. If it's not realistic, it can be renegotiated.I'm sending healing thoughts for your son, Kath, and strong, compassionate thoughts for you.
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